What was your resolve for the New Year? Better eating habits? More time at the gym working out? Get back in the dating scene? All of these sounds great. They are healthy and appear to be steps towards creating your best self. But why is it so freaking difficult to keep these resolutions active? Why do we continue to make them year after year knowing they have a very low success rate? Maybe its because we like to hear ourselves say good things. The things that (we think) impresses others and somehow make us look good in the moment. Or maybe it really is our authentic self, peeking through the veil of potential barriers, gauging whether it’s safe to pursue this higher self. Contemplating if I should pursue this ideal self publicly and have other’s opinions attached to my epic success or to my shameful failure? No, no, no. Maybe I will have my resolution as a private goal. Full control, no pressure and no accountability.
The challenge isn’t in which format you choose to express your resolution. The challenge is simply, EXPRESSING IT! Some days you remember. Some days you don’t. High energy yesterday. Not motivated at all today. Why is there so much confusion with an innocent New Year’s resolution? Perhaps we make them too grandiose. Or maybe you think change for the better isn’t in you. Maybe you’re thinking I am meant to be just what I am today, and nothing more.
Change, especially a life-style change, is a journey, a process, sometimes a marathon. When we know we were meant to live at a higher level, we keep moving towards that level. One thing I have come to appreciate and understand is, change is merely the old is dying and the new is being born. Confusion with your resolution occurs when both the old thought forms and the new thought forms, try to occupy the same space at the same time. The old habits are trying to hold on for dear life. The new acts are determined to take their desirable places. It is a tug of war. No, you are not going crazy. You are birthing a new you. The you that you have always imagined. The you that you are meant to be. So, pace yourselves. Move forward with clarity. Let’s see the confusion for what it is. The old is dying and the new is being born. Give the old mind-set, thoughts and actions an awesome funeral! And then BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE and PUUUUUSHH! BIRTH the NEW, UNAPOLOGETIC, WHO YOU WERE MEANT TO BE…..YOU!
Terry Brooks-Allen is one of central Indiana’s top ten leading Etiquette Specialists and Image Consultants, coaching and training seasoned and budding professionals in appropriate attire, dining etiquette and professional development for more than 20 years.